Marriage is as old as the world itself. However, the phenomenon of divorce is a recent one. Earlier, when a boy married a girl, the relation was understood not only as the union of two souls, but also two families. And the bond remained forever.
In today’s globalized and technocratic world, people are so busy among themselves that they do not have enough time for the relations. The family relations have become secondary. Though the parents and the children live under the same roof, eat the same food cooked in the same vessel, eat at the same dining table, yet far away from each other. In other words, the ‘friends’ living far away are more ‘closer’ than the people living ‘nearby.’ Members of the family go to schools or to work and come back and glued to the internet, chatting, watching TV programmes or stick the ear-phone in ear and listen to the music as they wish. In such environment, where is the scope for family relationship?
In most of the time, reason for the cleavage of bond is because of the misunderstanding. One fails to understand the other. Husband thinks he is superior to wife and vice-versa. Children, as they grow older, think that the parents have no right over them. Recently I came across a few reflections of a house-wife who thinks that husbands should understand their wives better. The same applies to the wives too. Let me share these thoughts:
"Love her … when she sips on your coffee or tea. She only wants to make sure it tastes just right for you.
Love her… when she "pushes" you to pray. She wants to be with you in Jannah (Paradise).
Love her… when she asks you to play with the kids. She did not "make" them on her own.
Love her... when she is jealous. Out of all the men she can have, she chose you
Love her… when she has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You have them too.
Love her… when her cooking is bad. She tries.
Love her… when she looks disheveled in the morning. She always grooms herself up again.
Love her… when she asks to help with the kids homework. She only wants you to be part of the home.
Love her... when she asks if she looks fat. Your opinion counts, so tell her she's beautiful.
Love her… when she looks beautiful. She's yours, so appreciate her.
Love her... when she spends hours to get ready. She only wants to look her best for you.
Love her… when she buys you gifts you don't like. Smile and tell her it's what you've always wanted.
Love her… when she has developed a bad habit. You have many more and with wisdom and politeness you have all the time to help her change.
Love her… when she cries for absolutely nothing. Don't ask, tell her it’s going to be okay
Love her… when she suffers from PMS. Buy chocolate, rub her feet and back and just chat to her
Love her… when whatever you do is not pleasing. It happens and will pass
Love her… when she stains your clothes. You needed a new thobe (kurta / suite) anyway
Love her…when she tells you how to drive. She only wants you to be safe.
Love her… when she argues. She only wants to make things right for both
Love her… she is yours. You don't need any other special reason!!!!
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Family is an integral part of the society we live. The family which stays together, prays together lives forever. Such families do not break. Each one has concern for the other. They have something to share and something to laugh at. Mistakes are part of life. When one does mistake, the other corrects him/her. There is a mutual understanding.
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